Have More Fun, Win More Games...
"Winning the Mental and
Emotional Games of Youth Baseball and Softball...
... How to Coach,
Parent and Play with Total Confidence, Focus, Consistency and Emotional
A Step-by-Step Guide to Leading Young Players to Overcoming
Frustration, Anger and Fear, and Instead Having More Fun, Playing Great, and Learning Life Success
Dear Parent and/or Coach:
I don't have to convince you that baseball and softball are emotional sports.
You watch your child or team ride the emotional rollercoaster from confidence to fear, laughter to tears, joy to
gut wrenching sorrow.
While there's a lot of joy and happiness (for some), there's guaranteed failure and heart ache.
Guaranteed failure means guaranteed negative emotion!
How can you know what to say in times like these -- and be better at
avoiding them in the first place?
Anger at a strikeout.
Embarrassment at an error.
Devistation at a season-ending loss
And you get your heart ripped out too! (I know, I've got my kid in little league now.)
How do you feel when your kid strikes out?
Walks in a run?
Boots an easy play?
Hangs his head in defeat or shame?
Cries about something that happened in the game or practice?
Here's the Bad
Baseball and softball are emotional games. They turn up the intensity of life
Yes, school churns up emotions. But in baseball/softball you can't hide in the back row.
When your son is up to bat, HE is up to bat. Everyone watches him. Everyone sees what he does. His performance
is totally public.
(If Johnny is having trouble in school it is kept hush hush.)
If a ground ball comes to your daughter, it comes to HER. Not to her team; HER.
Add the fact that failure is built into the game (the game is extremely difficult)- and
you've got a recipe for emotional disaster.
Yes, for wonderful things as well. But in baseball and softball success is not guaranteed...
How your child
learns to handle these extreme emotions now will profoundly affect how he/she deals with adversity the rest of
And Most Coaches are Dropping the
What do most coaches teach to help deal with the emotions of the game?
"Yes you struck out, but if you take a shorter path to the ball..."
True, but the technical aspects of the game are dwarfed by the emotions.
Proper technique is important (the laws of physics always apply). But when a kid feels good, is
confident and focused, he's got a chance to have fun and play well.
Only then will his mechanics help him. (If he's scared at the plate, all the dollars you spent on those
technique lessons get swept down the drain!)
Coaches and parents will also say "Do your best." "You'll get over it." "Keep your head up." "Get'em next
Good stuff, and from the heart those words can help. But they hardly give the kid anything to sink his teeth
They'll teach your child precisely how to throw a pitch, but leave him/her on their own to deal with the demons
of self-doubt, self-condemnation, and fear.
(This isn't to fault the coaches -- raise your hand if you've been trained on how to handle your
emotions -- I'm just pointing out an important truth.)
So the bad news is
that the most important element of the game, emotions, is not coached. At least not systematically,
The kids aren't
guided on how to handle the tidel waves of emotions the game creates in them.
But Here's the Good
It isn't the striking out that is so critical, it is how it is "framed." How the child sees
Much of how he/she sees it will but culturally determined. Kids know the difference between success and
But also much of how he/she sees it will be contextually determined -- by the context the coach and parents have
created around the experience.
So the good news is you can powerfully affect the experience your child has. You can learn how to
turn any experience into a positive one.
and Parents: Your #1 Job is ...
... to create an emotional context that maximizes the likelihood of each child making empowering
interpretations of their experiences.
(You might want to read that again while I think of how to say it simpler...)
If the team and league emotional context (prevailing mood, attitude, energy, focus,) is
fear (kids get yelled at when they screw up), that will lead a
player to negative interpretations about him or her self.
If the team and league emotional context is love (kids are
supported unconditionally), a player is much more likely to make positive interpretations about what happens.
(Now unconditional support doesn't mean you let them do whatever they want, or never yell, it means you support
That means the focus is on them and their development, not you and your ego.
You might wisely ask...
"But how do
I create a loving, supporting 'emotional context'
so my kids learn to be confident and overcome
"Helps All Players, Parents and Coaches
Have a More Positive Experience"
As a former player, parent, and coach of youth baseball for 7 years; I have never been so
moved by a program.
The points your program addresses can help "all" players, parents, and coaches have a
more positive experience with the great game of baseball.
It addresses perfectly the point that our minds hold the key to sucess in every facet of
Kudos Tom!!! I have already told all my coaching friends about it.
|Steve Cox, Gainesville, Georgia
A League Championship
"I appreciate your advice on helping my son through his batting slump.
Just to refresh your memory, My son plays on an 8 yr old "kid pitch" baseball
league for our local municipality. Evan began running into a bit of a slump midway through the
season and I grew very frustrated in my attempts to coach him out of it. The "pitch/hit" technique
you taught me worked wonders. We practiced the technique for about 20 minutes one night before his game and that night he went 2 for 3.
He progressed extrememly well throughout the remainder of the season.
"In fact, we made it all the way to the Plumstead Minor Prep Championship game. Our boys found
themselves down 6-1 in the top of the 3rd inning and roared back with hot bats and smart base
running in the bottom of the 4th. Evan's bat was responsible for our only run in the 2nd inning. He
also started our rally in the 4th inning where we went up 10-7 and ultimately won the
"From one coach to another, I want to thank you for the advice as our boys benefited immensely. I
have attached a picture of the teams post game photo."
Note: The "pitch-hit" technique is included in the "Winning the
Mental Game of Youth Baseball and Softball" program.
Finally, A Step-by-Step Program for Creating a Supportive, Loving, and Successful Environment in
Which Young Players Thrive
I created "Winning the Mental Game of Youth Baseball and Softball: How to Coach, Parent, and Play with
Confidence, Focus, Consistency, and Emotional Control" to empower parents and coaches to provide the
best possible experience for their young athletes.
After 25 years of coaching the mental and emotional aspects of baseball and softball, I've created two
simple exercises you can take your team or child through, giving you a system for successfully
coaching them on the emotional elements of the game.
These two techniques simplify the game enormously.
Not just the "outer game" of baseball/softball (the game we all see with our eyes), but the all important "inner
game" of your kids' emotions, confidence, focus, and motivation.
Virtually every mental and emotional game question you might have can be answered by these two "magic
And the best news is that teaching these techniques not
only improve players overall life skills...they're the best way to WIN!
"11-Year Olds Champions Over 12-Year
This past Tuesday, our team of mostly 11 year-olds beat a team of mostly 12 year-olds for the
One of the main reasons is our players were more composed on the mound and in the
The other team had a few bad plays and they totally lost it - kids throwing hats and gloves in
Throughout the season, we taught the boys on how to use your ABC's routine, had them pick their
goal in the beginning of the season and kept that in focus, etc.
All these ideas and the means of implementing them came from your
We won quite a few games that we should have lost, and your program was the
It put us at the top of the heap!!
|Dan Rasimowicz, Summerset, New Jersey
Your Kids to Success Through the Game's Crazy Ups and Downs"
With this program you'll be able to guide your child or team through the labyrinth of
emotions and mental challenges the game puts them through.
In addition to numerous mental and emotional game tips, I give you two "golden threads" to hold as you make your
way through the maze of complex situations and obstacles.
You'll be able to help your player...
"Mechanics are just a part of the picture.
"Your program's ABCs of the mental game help you focus and play better and thus have a
lot more fun."
Ken Hayner, Instructor, Coach, Co-owner
Half Moon, New York
You get a system for doing all of the above.
All success is the result of following a proven system.
Take the guesswork out of it.
Know what to say in those tough moments (first inning jitters, last inning chokes, silent car rides home).
(What would results like these be worth?)
National Championship ... and a Trip
I'm very pleased with the system. It helps my son with his baseball and
with his school. He was the catcher from the Caribbean selection in
the Little League World Series and did a good job.
Everybody was commenting about his maturity behind the plate for a 12 years
old. Now that he going to next level, he will be needing this system the most.
Thanks and count on me as a member.
|Phil Llewellyn, Curacao
What You Get...
||The DVD (1 hour, 20 minutes) (show
your kids clips of it at the field on a laptop).
||A CD of a 45-minute recording of a
call where I review the key concepts with the coach in the video spelling out step-by-step how to
implement the two basic
techniques of the program.
||A big manual with simple simple
forms for you and players to fill out.
||A transcript of the DVD so you can
take read along orthe program with you anywhere
What You'll Do When You Get It ...
1. Read the one page "READ THIS FIRST" page. It gives you the whole program on one page.
2. Watch the whole video. Watch me teach the ideas and lead the exercises (you'll get a sense that "I can do
3. Read through the manual for my step-by-step instructions for how to implement the techniques.
4. Listen to me explain how to use techniques to the coach of the 12-year-old team in the video.
5. Show video clips to your players.
6. Teach the material yourself.
7. Share it with other parents and coaches on your team so you can get everyone on the same page.
8. Enjoy the peace of mind you and your player(s) experience as a result of knowing
how to handle the frustration, anger, disappointment and even embarrassment that so often comes with baseball
9. Experience the satisfaction that you've taught young people you care about how to
be confident, focused, consistent and emotionally in control -- LIFE SKILLS they'll use for everything
they ever do.
10. Enjoy it when they say "Thank you."
And if you have any questions once you get started, just email me.
If you aren't thrilled with the program, send it back for a full refund.
ability to manage emotions determines success not just in baseball and softball, but in all aspects of life.
Do you want your child to benefit from a proven system for "emotional success" or just go out alone and be told:
"Do your best?"
Order "Winning the Mental and Emotional Game of Baseball and Softball" and you'll be choosing to provide a
wonderful environment for your child or team to:
||Have more fun
||Play great consistently, and
||Learn life success skills
I'll look forward to hearing your success story.
(See below for other success stories from people who already have the program.)
Dr. Tom Hanson, BaseballConfidence.com
p.s. As you saw in the quote above from coach Dan, focusing on what I coach you to focus on not only creates a
much more helpful, humanistic, and empowering emotional context -- it also is the best way to
p.p.s. Moms and dads, the less you know about baseball and softball, the more valuable this
program will be. Youth league success is not just about technique. The mental and emotional aspects are much more
important than technique.
If you want to know that you are following an excellent system for "creating an emotional context that maximizes
the likelihood of each child making empowering
interpretations of their experiences," this is the way to go.
NOTE: I recently asked
people who have previously invested in this program: "On a 1 (low) to 10 (high)scale, how likely are you to
recommend 'Winning the Mental Game of Youth Baseball and Softball" to your friends and
The mean response was 9.1. Here are a few of
I tell people that the program provides specific methods to build
and maintain confidence and a positive
Too often coaches say "do this" [as in “Go out and play with
confidence] but do not give any means to
achieve the end.
p.s. - we are on our way to Cooperstown Dreams Park and
will be using the ABCs every day!
Don Kellet, Littleton,
I am struggling with
the question "how likely are you to recommend this to parents/friends". On one hand I think the program is
outstanding and is exactly what is needed for my team.
I have many
boys who take things very seriously, they think that because they are good that they should hit every
pitch, make every play and get out every batter. They struggle when things do not go well and
actually compound the errors.
On the other
hand, my competitive side says that I do not want to share this process with other coaches that we might
compete with. I am more than happy (10) to do it with friends, parents and non competing coaches.
In the long
run, I guess I will just have to use my emotional intelligence and think of the greater good and say that I
would recommend this to everyone.
10 - Tom, I'm starting to use this with my 10 year old all-stars
and have incorporated some of it into my lessons. Great stuff! Thanks.
Mechanics are just a part of the picture. The ABC's of
the mental game will help you focus and play better and thus have a lot more fun.
I believe that the mental game is what separates players in a big
way when talent or athletic ability are equal. I'm looking forward to learning more about it.
Half Moon, New York
recommend it all the time.
I got the program I also bought heads up baseball and by reading that after working with the program it really
helped tie things together.
fun thing is once you have worked with it and have confidence yourself, you recommend it and you get the look
like "why would I need that" or "that's too weird" you just smile and realize the gain you got and the loss to
those that won't try it!
be playing in the Arkansas 12U "AAA" USSSA State Tournament this weekend. Have begun implementing some
of your system into practice and games.
have preached about the "mental" and "doing the little things" for several years, this allows you practice what you have been
If you want to see a guy who relates to kids without being
parentally overbearing - then you just gotta see this DVD/CD and read the manual.
What you take from it and adapt for your own personal use/delivery
- is up to you - but you will most definitely gain insight from it
The one thing that I have learned when dealing with adolescents -
is that you cannot - must not - "speak down to them" - you must always be - "on their level" - in control but
not "superior" (so to speak)
Tom, I just loved the way you spoke to and related to your young
Additional Comments from Coaches and
"Performance Level Goes Through Roof"
“I cannot thank you enough for your products.
My son has benefited tremendously. His attitude continues to improve and his performance level
has gone through the roof.
He is becoming a 'mental dominator.' Doctor you have truly created a
|Warren Chambers, Eight Mile, AL
"Ignites the Passion of
a Soon- Retiring (old dog)
I do want to tell you that, once again, your philosophies about the mental part of
the game have made me a better coach and especially made me a more pleasant coach to be around.
Last year we reached the final 8 in our state playoffs and I publicly
stated that you were a major part of our tournament run.
We made the final 16 this year and, again, I'm convinced that you played a major
part in our success.
I just returned from a shopping trip where I met a parent from a rival school who
asked how we can compete year after year despite being about half the size of many of our
I replied I'd share my passion for the "mental part of the game" and Tom Hanson's
beliefs if he really wanted to know.
I told him how my passion for discovering the process of the mental
part of the game had transformed me as a coach.
In a nutshell, I told him I coach the techniques of the game much less and spend
more and more time each year talking about things like having a routine and visualizing the traffic
He laughed and said, "so that's what you were doing when you encouraged your
pitcher with the comment," let your routine work, now."
By the end of the conversation, he was asking me if I would be willing to speak to
a group about my/your ideas. Is that legal? I certainly don't want to do anything illegal.
I'm just so passionate about spreading the word I don't care if they are rivals or
Your philosophies have permeated my whole life.
Just the other day I read in a novel a character say that we spend most of our time
in our own heads. Instantly, I connected that to playing one pitch at a time!
Can I legally talk about theses things? I'm curious. Would it be a problem if I
referred to you? Heck, I'm retiring from teaching in two years and I have a feeling I could make a
decent supplemental living talking to teacher's groups. Thanks for listening.
Tom Saunches, Decatur, Illinois
Yankees Make Significant Improvements
"We made significant improvements in significant areas in 2001 throughout our
player development system, and Tom played a big part in our doing so.
"He helped us clarify our hitting philosophy in particular, which contributed to
our finishing first in baseball in statistical categories that are most important to us.
"Tom helped change the nature of the conversations in the Yankee system. We’re now
more focused on what’s most important. I recommend you let him do the same for you."
Vice-President of Player Development
New York Yankees